Self-care is not selfish

There are a number of ways, and reasons, to take care of yourself! It is not an indulgence, splurge or selfish to engage in an act of self-care. These little breaks allow us to be our best, for us and for those around us. Has it been so long since your last act of self-care that you don’t know what to choose? Check out this list:

134 Activities to Add to Your Self-Care Plan

Better communication applies to self talk, too

Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:

Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind.  Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life.  Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly.  For every negative message there is positive,  keep looking until you find them.

For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”

Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself.  When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.

Better communication applies to self talk, too

Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:

Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind.  Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life.  Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly.  For every negative message there is positive,  keep looking until you find them.

For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”

Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself.  When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.

Five Reasons Why Travel Is Good For Your Mental Health

Five Reasons Why Travel Is Good For Your Mental Health

What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when I say ‘travel’ – Vacation? Meeting new people? Or maybe, Instagrammable sunsets? While traveling can be exciting and exhilarating, it’s so much more than sipping margaritas on a sun-soaked beach.

It’s no news that travel is good for your physical wellbeing, but a significant amount of scientific research suggests that exploring a new place can do wonders for your mental and emotional health as well. Read More on Forbes.com

 

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How long has Best Single Travel been in business?
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Where is Best Single Travel Located?
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Are there any membership fees?
No fees or club to join – just book a singles vacation or trip and go. Read More at Never Fly With Jim Evans.com

 

Looking to get the best out of your holiday? Let us help by getting you a great guide; someone who will help you navigate local language and culture barriers, show you hidden gems and tell you stories that only a local would know!

TourHQ is an online platform that connects travellers with tourism service providers. Guides and tour companies register their profiles here, providing detailed information about themselves, their skills, services and experiences. Travellers who visit tourHQ can chose from amongst thousands of these guides and tourism providers, to find the one most suited to their requirements.They can directly interact with their guides to seek travel advice and customise their itineraries, hence enjoying their trip on their own terms. By engaging locals, travellers more so help support the local communities in the areas they visit.

With over 27,500 guides, in over 5,000 locations from 208 countries globally, tourHQ is today one of the largest and widest communities of guides in the world, providing travellers with a vast selection of guides in even the most remote areas of the world. Whether it’s a city guide, safari guide, scuba diving instructor or even a cruise ship shore excursion guide, you will find the right one on tourHQ! Read More at Tour HQ

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ROAMING MAN is the world’s first 4G worldwide and free roaming Wi-Fi hotspot device for the travel and mobile internet industry. ROAMING MAN’s cutting-edge technology offers a number of travel solutions, including:

– availability in over 130+ countries – hassle free travelling (eliminating the use of SIM cards) – stability (global coverage and global mobile internet access for everyone) – security (Wi-Fi privacy) – unlimited data plans – affordability (travelling globally, paying locally) – style (modern design) – ease of use (plug and play interactive screen) – power bank (mobile phone battery pack)

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Talking to the Shadow

A topic was brought up briefly today and I want to explore it a little further in this blog post. Everyone has many facets to their personalities, different selves. One being the “dark side”, the dark passenger, or shadow self. In the Wiccan traditions, I have worked with getting in touch with the shadow self is essential to growing as a magickal practitioner. No, I did not spell magick wrong. Magick is different from magic. Magic is the stage show and slight of hand tricks. Magick refers to energy exchange, spell-work, and ritual work commonly found among Pagan religions.  Speaking from my personal experience if I did not work on my shadow self I would not be able to connect fully with myself, others, or the spiritual planes. We all think dark thoughts and we are all capable of dark things. Dark does not mean bad; when I say dark I am speaking of things like violence and death, which is not necessarily bad. Violence and death can be bad under certain circumstances like mugging and be killing someone for no reason. Violence and death can also be a blessing like if a police officer is stopping a domestic violence situation. Also, death is part of the cycle of creation and destruction. So to me, everything is on a spectrum, everything is gray, there is no black or white. To understand my higher self I need to explore my lower self. Exploring your shadow self or dark passenger can be scary and uncomfortable at the same time it is therapeutic to understand all parts of you. Once you understand something some of the fear goes away. Notice I said some fear goes away; it is good to have a healthy fear and understanding of the darker side of your being.This is a form of respect and acknowledgment of the power the shadow self-does have and is capable of if/when released out into the world.  It is healthy to meditate and have rituals of connection with all parts of your being (especially the darker parts) because if you can connect with yourself you have a greater chance and understanding of how to connect with others. In the sense that my weirdness understands and accepts your weirdness. If you would like to know more about connecting with your darker parts please feel free to contact me at 678-964-4739 or relationship.positive.therapy@gmail.com.

Book recommendation for rituals of connection with the Shadow Self:

Dark Moon Mysteries: Wisdom, Power, and Magic of the Shadow World  by Timothy Roderick

Link: https://www.amazon.com/Dark-Moon-Mysteries-Wisdom-Shadow/dp/0738747211?SubscriptionId=AKIAJ2F6RDUSIYCWQMFQ&tag=sa-b2c-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=2025&creative=165953&creativeASIN=0738747211

E31 – Polly needs a lawyer

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David Hoffman was born and raised in Tampa, Florida, where he currently lives with his wife, two dogs, a cat and a hedgehog. Hoffman Law Firm, P.A. opened on February 14, 2014, serving clients throughout the Tampa Bay area in areas including divorce, child support, custody, dependency, and estate planning. It is the mission of Hoffman Law Firm to provide clients with affordable, personalized service. David is an active member of the Tampa community. He serves on the Board of Directors for the South Tampa Chamber of Commerce as their Consulting Attorney. Through the South Tampa Chamber, David volunteers his time to projects and events benefiting local businesses as well as military families and veterans. He is also a member of the Hillsborough County Bar Association, the LGBT Bar Association of Tampa Bay, and the Tampa Bay Inn of Court. David is currently in training to become a Kink Certified Professional. He works with kink, lifestyle and poly families to meet the unique their needs and offer a welcoming and inclusive experience.

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Polyamory, Pride Flags, and Patterns of Feedback

Warning: For those of you who come here looking for technical advice and inside information about the Selenium project, WebDriver, or browser automation, this post isn’t about any of those. You might just want to skip this one altogether.

One thing about me I’m not really sure how many people are aware of is that I’m polyamorous. That means that I am comfortable being in simultaneous romantic relationships with multiple partners at once, and that my participation in those relationships is openly known by all people involved. I’ve been polyamorous, or “poly” for short, for nearly all of my adult life. A little over 20 years ago, I lived in the Pacific Northwest, and for the first time in my life, I experienced first-hand the struggles and celebrations of what is now known as the LGBT community. One thing that struck me was the imagery and symbolism those communities used to rally around, identify other members, and publicly announce their membership in the community. The pride flag was one image that made a huge impression on me. At that time, the poly community didn’t really have similar symbols to use, so I took it upon myself to create one. Here’s what I made up, and released into the public domain in the late summer or early fall of 1995.

Here’s the text I wrote up describing it to the first mailing list I shared it with. It’s become the canonical description of this particular flag.

The poly pride flag consists of three equal horizontal colored stripes with a symbol in the center of the flag. The colors of the stripes, from top to bottom, are as follows: blue, representing the openness and honesty among all partners with which we conduct our multiple relationships; red, representing love and passion; and black, representing solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants of their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures. The symbol in the center of the flag is a gold Greek lowercase letter ‘pi’, as the first letter of ‘polyamory’. The letter’s gold color represents the value that we place on the emotional attachment to others, be the relationship friendly or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships.

Now, here are some things to understand. Clearly, I’m not a visual artist. My tools for creation at the time were literally limited to Microsoft Paint, running on Windows 3.1. Nevertheless, the flag design managed to limp along, with little fanfare. My friends and I used it, and thought of it as quirky and something that could be used in the way other pride flags were used, as a symbol to rally around and for identification.

Fast forward 20 years. Apparently, this thing called the World Wide Web happened, and let all sorts of people communicate and discover things they’d never known about before. New polyamorous people began to discover the flag existed. One would think that people might think it was an interesting idea, given its intent. One would be wrong. The flag has been called vileno goodhideous,disappointingugly, and many other negative things.

One of the issues frequently brought up is that the color scheme is garish or unpleasing. That’s subjective, and I can’t argue with their perception. I still think there’s value in the color symbology, if not the actual RGB values I used when creating it.

Many people seem to take issue with the pi symbol as obscure. There were specific reasons for choosing it at the time. First, I specifically avoided imagery that included a heart. The leather pride flag, which predates the design of mine, includes a heart, and I was trying to avoid confusion, given that community was there first. The “infinity heart” was not yet as widely accepted a symbol for polyamory, and would have been challenging for me to incorporate given my limited abilities in the visual arts. The letter pi was readily available on computer typographic platforms even in those days, so I chose that.

Also, at the time, I was more concerned with “in the closet” polyfolk, and was far more in the closet myself than I am these days. I wanted a symbol that could be used relatively anonymously, that could let people who were in on the symbology connect, without it being too specific.

Additionally, there was already a rich history of existing pride symbols using Greek letters, the use of lambda as an LGBT symbol, being a concrete example. I was hoping to evoke similarity and solidarity without being too explicit or derivative. Finally, the fact that the “poly” in polyamory is a Greek root seemed to indicate that would be a natural choice. In retrospect, perhaps a lemniscate (“infinity symbol”) would’ve been a better choice, but nobody spoke up then.

Poly people coming to read this full story for the first time, welcome. Glad to meet you. If you don’t care for the flag, I’m sorry to have offended your sensibilities. Today, there are a number of alternative symbols you can rally around. Use mine, don’t use it, I’m just glad some people found a banner to rally around in the late ’90s. Feel free to leave comments, but dismissive and abusive comments will be removed.

Polyamory, Pride Flags, and Patterns of Feedback

Warning: For those of you who come here looking for technical advice and inside information about the Selenium project, WebDriver, or browser automation, this post isn’t about any of those. You might just want to skip this one altogether.

One thing about me I’m not really sure how many people are aware of is that I’m polyamorous. That means that I am comfortable being in simultaneous romantic relationships with multiple partners at once, and that my participation in those relationships is openly known by all people involved. I’ve been polyamorous, or “poly” for short, for nearly all of my adult life. A little over 20 years ago, I lived in the Pacific Northwest, and for the first time in my life, I experienced first-hand the struggles and celebrations of what is now known as the LGBT community. One thing that struck me was the imagery and symbolism those communities used to rally around, identify other members, and publicly announce their membership in the community. The pride flag was one image that made a huge impression on me. At that time, the poly community didn’t really have similar symbols to use, so I took it upon myself to create one. Here’s what I made up, and released into the public domain in the late summer or early fall of 1995.

Here’s the text I wrote up describing it to the first mailing list I shared it with. It’s become the canonical description of this particular flag.

The poly pride flag consists of three equal horizontal colored stripes with a symbol in the center of the flag. The colors of the stripes, from top to bottom, are as follows: blue, representing the openness and honesty among all partners with which we conduct our multiple relationships; red, representing love and passion; and black, representing solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants of their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures. The symbol in the center of the flag is a gold Greek lowercase letter ‘pi’, as the first letter of ‘polyamory’. The letter’s gold color represents the value that we place on the emotional attachment to others, be the relationship friendly or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships.

Now, here are some things to understand. Clearly, I’m not a visual artist. My tools for creation at the time were literally limited to Microsoft Paint, running on Windows 3.1. Nevertheless, the flag design managed to limp along, with little fanfare. My friends and I used it, and thought of it as quirky and something that could be used in the way other pride flags were used, as a symbol to rally around and for identification.

Fast forward 20 years. Apparently, this thing called the World Wide Web happened, and let all sorts of people communicate and discover things they’d never known about before. New polyamorous people began to discover the flag existed. One would think that people might think it was an interesting idea, given its intent. One would be wrong. The flag has been called vileno goodhideous,disappointingugly, and many other negative things.

One of the issues frequently brought up is that the color scheme is garish or unpleasing. That’s subjective, and I can’t argue with their perception. I still think there’s value in the color symbology, if not the actual RGB values I used when creating it.

Many people seem to take issue with the pi symbol as obscure. There were specific reasons for choosing it at the time. First, I specifically avoided imagery that included a heart. The leather pride flag, which predates the design of mine, includes a heart, and I was trying to avoid confusion, given that community was there first. The “infinity heart” was not yet as widely accepted a symbol for polyamory, and would have been challenging for me to incorporate given my limited abilities in the visual arts. The letter pi was readily available on computer typographic platforms even in those days, so I chose that.

Also, at the time, I was more concerned with “in the closet” polyfolk, and was far more in the closet myself than I am these days. I wanted a symbol that could be used relatively anonymously, that could let people who were in on the symbology connect, without it being too specific.

Additionally, there was already a rich history of existing pride symbols using Greek letters, the use of lambda as an LGBT symbol, being a concrete example. I was hoping to evoke similarity and solidarity without being too explicit or derivative. Finally, the fact that the “poly” in polyamory is a Greek root seemed to indicate that would be a natural choice. In retrospect, perhaps a lemniscate (“infinity symbol”) would’ve been a better choice, but nobody spoke up then.

Poly people coming to read this full story for the first time, welcome. Glad to meet you. If you don’t care for the flag, I’m sorry to have offended your sensibilities. Today, there are a number of alternative symbols you can rally around. Use mine, don’t use it, I’m just glad some people found a banner to rally around in the late ’90s. Feel free to leave comments, but dismissive and abusive comments will be removed.

Executive Leadership, and Business Coaching and Development

Executive Leadership Coaching is a process that involves trained professionals whose function is that of encouragement, guidance, and support. They can be a muse and an acute observer to help an individual master their leadership or management performance and development. This process builds a leader’s capability to achieve short- and long-term organizational goals.

Business coaching is a process used to take a business from where it is now to where the business owner wants it to be. A business coach will assist and guide the business owner in growing their business by helping them clarify the vision of their business and how it fits in with their personal goals. The HarmonyUs team has helped many startups turn into successful and lucrative companies and supported individuals to achieve their entrepreneurial, educational, and career dreams.

Executive Leadership, and Business Coaching and Development

Executive Leadership Coaching is a process that involves trained professionals whose function is that of encouragement, guidance, and support. They can be a muse and an acute observer to help an individual master their leadership or management performance and development. This process builds a leader’s capability to achieve short- and long-term organizational goals.

Business coaching is a process used to take a business from where it is now to where the business owner wants it to be. A business coach will assist and guide the business owner in growing their business by helping them clarify the vision of their business and how it fits in with their personal goals. The HarmonyUs team has helped many startups turn into successful and lucrative companies and supported individuals to achieve their entrepreneurial, educational, and career dreams.