There are a number of ways, and reasons, to take care of yourself! It is not an indulgence, splurge or selfish to engage in an act of self-care. These little breaks allow us to be our best, for us and for those around us. Has it been so long since your last act of self-care that you don’t know what to choose? Check out this list:
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Does it feel awkward bringing up safe sex to your partner(s)?
How do I choose the right condom for me?
First Check the Lable…
Make sure to read the condom label to check if it is FDA-approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs. According to FDA regulations, anything that “sufficiently resembles” a condom must comply with FDA standards including novelty condoms, like those that glow in the dark or are flavored. If condoms do not comply with these standards, they may not claim to be a contraceptive device.
Condoms also have an expiration date, make sure that your are using it BEFORE the date on the packaging.
Now Let Us Consider Size…
Now Let’s Discuss Material…
What Tecture Does Your Penis Like?
What Strength Do You Need?
How Hard Do You Want to Play?
How Long Do You Want To Last?
Do Your Sexy Parts Like It Slippery When Wet?
Personal lubricants are a vital part of a healthy sex life. Find a wide selection of lubes including silicone, water-based, natural, vaginal, anal, flavored, and more. Lubricants can be used during intercourse, foreplay, desensitizing, and some are formulated to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.
Finally, Make Sure That We Protect All Our Body Parts During Sex!
How Effective Are Condoms?
According to PlannedParenthood.Org, Condoms are great at preventing both pregnancy and STDs. If you follow the instructions and use them every time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex, there’s very little chance of pregnancy, or getting or giving an STD.
Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:
Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind. Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life. Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly. For every negative message there is positive, keep looking until you find them.
For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”
Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself. When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.
A court in Medellin, Colombia’s second largest city, has granted two husbands in a polyamorous relationship the split pension of their late partner, local media reported on Monday.
Manuel Bermudez and Victor Rodriguez, the two surviving members of the relationship between four men, were initially denied pension rights after the death of their lover Alex Zabala from cancer in 2014, following 10 years of living together as a polyamorous family.
The Medellin court ordered the pension fund to retroactively pay the two men.
A third member of the family of four men was denied pension rights as he had only been with his partners for a year when Zabala died.
Zabala’s mother was also denied pension as she was never financially dependent on her son. Read More
Oneida was founded in 1848 by John Humphrey Noyes, a former theological student who believed that paradise could be found on Earth through nontraditional sexual and familial structures. This included communal child raising; “complex marriage,” a term Noyes invented to describe how all Oneidans were married to one another; and sexual rituals, like male continence. Noyes built an enormous mansion in upstate New York for his “family” and amassed hundreds of followers. For years, the community succeeded. But after Noyes died, the community pivoted—into a thriving business. Read More
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Often people wrestle with coming to terms with their sexual fantasies because they sense they’re rare. The less common we believe our fantasies might be the more likely we are to build up some shame and trepidations around them. By laying bare the reality that these wide-ranging sexual fantasies are rather common (in other words, quite normal), hopefully people will embrace those fantasies for what they are, a healthy manifestation of their sexuality. Read More
Today on the Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue the discussion of Manage Conflict by introducing Dr. Gottman’s six skills of conflict management. Many of us connect all too well with comedian Mitch Hedberg’s feelings when he quips, “I got in an argument with a girlfriend inside of a tent. That’s a bad place for an argument, because I tried to walk out, and had to slam the flap!”
While his commentary on the frustrations all couples feel in the face of conflict may hit close to home, or deeply amuse us, we know that problems in real relationships are rarely solved through stand-up comedy. In the interest of finding more constructive solutions, we would like to direct you to a different quote, that lovely old adage: Love is saying “I feel differently” instead of “you’re wrong.”
Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success
In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These may be things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money. Their research findings emphasize the idea that couples must learn to manage conflict rather than avoid or attempt to eliminate it.
Trying to solve unsolvable problems is counterproductive, and no couple will ever completely eliminate them. However, discussing them is constructive and provides a positive opportunity for understanding and growth. Let’s look at three “conflict blueprints” to help you and your partner constructively manage conflict around unsolvable problems.
5 Steps to Fight Better if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For
Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.” However, Dr. Gottman has found that nearly 1/3 of all conflicts can be resolved with the right approach.
The popular approach to conflict resolution, advocated by many marriage therapists, is to put yourself in your partner’s shoes, listen to what they say, and communicate with empathy that you understand their perspective. It’s a decent method if you can do it.
But most couples can’t. Even happily married couples. After studying couples for the last 40 years, Dr. John Gottman has recognized that even happy couples do not follow the experts’ rules of communication.
By studying what these couples did, Dr. Gottman developed a new model for solving your solvable problems in an intimate relationship.
The 2018 Midterm election in the US brought sweeping changes to cannabis laws in several states – and the momentum certainly hasn’t slowed down since. Here’s a look at just some of the progress that’s been made toward cannabis legalization and access since the start of 2019:
- Social Use Space legislation for public cannabis consumption has been approved in Alaska and Denver, CO, with legislation moving forward in Massachusetts
- Adult Use has been legalized in Guam
- Medical Sales have begun in Arkansas
- Colorado cannabis reform has been approved
- Medical cannabis expansion was approved in North Dakota, Colorado, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Virginia, with legislation advancing in Texas
- Washington allows medical cannabis consumption in schools
- Penalties for cannabis possession have been reduced or decriminalized in Hawaii, North Dakota, New Mexico
- A Cannabis Banking bill passed in West Virginia
- The Medical Cannabis Smoking Ban has been repealed in Florida, Flowers sales have started, and a bill for regulated recreational use was introduced.
- A legal Medical Cannabis market has been officially established in the US Virgin Islands
International Changes Since January 2019
- Israel has decriminalized private adult use of cannabis
- New Zealand will add a general vote on cannabis legalization to the 2020 ballot
- South Africa legalized the sale and production of CBD from approved producers for individuals with prescriptions
- Bulgaria authorized the sale of CBD
This is the fastest growing industry in the country and there is a shortage of properly trained cannabis coaches, medical providers, and botanists. Training is affordable and easy with these providers:
TMCI provides online medical education for healthcare professionals who want to learn about medical cannabis and its potential clinical application. Our science-based, accredited courses help professionals deliver quality care and address patient questions. TMCI works with organizations that are recognized as pillars of medical cannabis learning and brings their valuable medical expertise to the healthcare community via an ever-growing online course catalog.
Through TMCI’s online course offerings, healthcare professionals will learn about everything from the basics of the endocannabinoid system and the importance of patient education to specific medical cannabis treatments for pain, cancer and other diseases.
TMCI offers content from experts in medical cannabis who have been educating healthcare professionals collectively for more than 50 years.
TMCI’s charter group of content providers –the Society of Cannabis Clinicians, the American Cannabis Nurses Association and Patients Out of Time – is providing courses from distinguished faculty and healthcare professionals. TMCI will continue to expand its medical education offerings in order to meet the diverse needs of healthcare professionals around the globe.
Based in Denver, Colorado, we were founded in 2012 ‘at the heart’ of the cannabis industry and we are a training provider for ‘all things’ in the cannabis industry. It’s a place where you can learn how to train like a pro, connect with industry experts, and get the strategies and tools you need to grow your business to new heights.
We’ve become one of the cannabis industry’s most TRUSTED voices by sharing the best of what works in training. Every organization has unique business objectives, so a one-size-fits-all training solution just won’t cut it for your needs.
Our ‘product’ is a plug-and-play total eLearning solution that is unlike any other options in the cannabis industry. We manage all the ‘moving parts’ and removed the guesswork from creating a training solution to help make rapid business growth available to EVERYONE in your organization.
If you’re operating in the cannabis industry or are a government entity, we can help you to create an effective training solution that improves learner performance, reduces risk, and increases the bottom-line of your operations. Best of all, we know our advice works because we actually DO this stuff every day.
The cannabis industry changes constantly. That’s why we’re here. We established Green CulturED as the ‘answer’ for business owners who are DISSATISFIED with the training options available in the cannabis industry.
As a total eLearning solution provider, we’re a smart, innovative company helping others in the cannabis industry SOLVE their training needs. Leave the heavy lifting to us! Bottom-line, we can handle all-things cannabis that you need, now and tomorrow.
A topic was brought up briefly today and I want to explore it a little further in this blog post. Everyone has many facets to their personalities, different selves. One being the “dark side”, the dark passenger, or shadow self. In the Wiccan traditions, I have worked with getting in touch with the shadow self is essential to growing as a magickal practitioner. No, I did not spell magick wrong. Magick is different from magic. Magic is the stage show and slight of hand tricks. Magick refers to energy exchange, spell-work, and ritual work commonly found among Pagan religions. Speaking from my personal experience if I did not work on my shadow self I would not be able to connect fully with myself, others, or the spiritual planes. We all think dark thoughts and we are all capable of dark things. Dark does not mean bad; when I say dark I am speaking of things like violence and death, which is not necessarily bad. Violence and death can be bad under certain circumstances like mugging and be killing someone for no reason. Violence and death can also be a blessing like if a police officer is stopping a domestic violence situation. Also, death is part of the cycle of creation and destruction. So to me, everything is on a spectrum, everything is gray, there is no black or white. To understand my higher self I need to explore my lower self. Exploring your shadow self or dark passenger can be scary and uncomfortable at the same time it is therapeutic to understand all parts of you. Once you understand something some of the fear goes away. Notice I said some fear goes away; it is good to have a healthy fear and understanding of the darker side of your being.This is a form of respect and acknowledgment of the power the shadow self-does have and is capable of if/when released out into the world. It is healthy to meditate and have rituals of connection with all parts of your being (especially the darker parts) because if you can connect with yourself you have a greater chance and understanding of how to connect with others. In the sense that my weirdness understands and accepts your weirdness. If you would like to know more about connecting with your darker parts please feel free to contact me at 678-964-4739 or email@example.com.
Book recommendation for rituals of connection with the Shadow Self:
Dark Moon Mysteries: Wisdom, Power, and Magic of the Shadow World by Timothy Roderick
David Hoffman was born and raised in Tampa, Florida, where he currently lives with his wife, two dogs, a cat and a hedgehog. Hoffman Law Firm, P.A. opened on February 14, 2014, serving clients throughout the Tampa Bay area in areas including divorce, child support, custody, dependency, and estate planning. It is the mission of Hoffman Law Firm to provide clients with affordable, personalized service. David is an active member of the Tampa community. He serves on the Board of Directors for the South Tampa Chamber of Commerce as their Consulting Attorney. Through the South Tampa Chamber, David volunteers his time to projects and events benefiting local businesses as well as military families and veterans. He is also a member of the Hillsborough County Bar Association, the LGBT Bar Association of Tampa Bay, and the Tampa Bay Inn of Court. David is currently in training to become a Kink Certified Professional. He works with kink, lifestyle and poly families to meet the unique their needs and offer a welcoming and inclusive experience.
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Warning: For those of you who come here looking for technical advice and inside information about the Selenium project, WebDriver, or browser automation, this post isn’t about any of those. You might just want to skip this one altogether.
Here’s the text I wrote up describing it to the first mailing list I shared it with. It’s become the canonical description of this particular flag.
The poly pride flag consists of three equal horizontal colored stripes with a symbol in the center of the flag. The colors of the stripes, from top to bottom, are as follows: blue, representing the openness and honesty among all partners with which we conduct our multiple relationships; red, representing love and passion; and black, representing solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants of their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures. The symbol in the center of the flag is a gold Greek lowercase letter ‘pi’, as the first letter of ‘polyamory’. The letter’s gold color represents the value that we place on the emotional attachment to others, be the relationship friendly or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships.
Now, here are some things to understand. Clearly, I’m not a visual artist. My tools for creation at the time were literally limited to Microsoft Paint, running on Windows 3.1. Nevertheless, the flag design managed to limp along, with little fanfare. My friends and I used it, and thought of it as quirky and something that could be used in the way other pride flags were used, as a symbol to rally around and for identification.
Fast forward 20 years. Apparently, this thing called the World Wide Web happened, and let all sorts of people communicate and discover things they’d never known about before. New polyamorous people began to discover the flag existed. One would think that people might think it was an interesting idea, given its intent. One would be wrong. The flag has been called vile, no good, hideous,disappointing, ugly, and many other negative things.
One of the issues frequently brought up is that the color scheme is garish or unpleasing. That’s subjective, and I can’t argue with their perception. I still think there’s value in the color symbology, if not the actual RGB values I used when creating it.
Many people seem to take issue with the pi symbol as obscure. There were specific reasons for choosing it at the time. First, I specifically avoided imagery that included a heart. The leather pride flag, which predates the design of mine, includes a heart, and I was trying to avoid confusion, given that community was there first. The “infinity heart” was not yet as widely accepted a symbol for polyamory, and would have been challenging for me to incorporate given my limited abilities in the visual arts. The letter pi was readily available on computer typographic platforms even in those days, so I chose that.
Also, at the time, I was more concerned with “in the closet” polyfolk, and was far more in the closet myself than I am these days. I wanted a symbol that could be used relatively anonymously, that could let people who were in on the symbology connect, without it being too specific.
Additionally, there was already a rich history of existing pride symbols using Greek letters, the use of lambda as an LGBT symbol, being a concrete example. I was hoping to evoke similarity and solidarity without being too explicit or derivative. Finally, the fact that the “poly” in polyamory is a Greek root seemed to indicate that would be a natural choice. In retrospect, perhaps a lemniscate (“infinity symbol”) would’ve been a better choice, but nobody spoke up then.
Poly people coming to read this full story for the first time, welcome. Glad to meet you. If you don’t care for the flag, I’m sorry to have offended your sensibilities. Today, there are a number of alternative symbols you can rally around. Use mine, don’t use it, I’m just glad some people found a banner to rally around in the late ’90s. Feel free to leave comments, but dismissive and abusive comments will be removed.