Self-care is not selfish

There are a number of ways, and reasons, to take care of yourself! It is not an indulgence, splurge or selfish to engage in an act of self-care. These little breaks allow us to be our best, for us and for those around us. Has it been so long since your last act of self-care that you don’t know what to choose? Check out this list:

134 Activities to Add to Your Self-Care Plan

Ask a Sexpert

Does it feel awkward bringing up safe sex to your partner(s)? 

How do I choose the right condom for me?

First Check the Lable…

Make sure to read the condom label to check if it is FDA-approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs. According to FDA regulations, anything that “sufficiently resembles” a condom must comply with FDA standards including novelty condoms, like those that glow in the dark or are flavored. If condoms do not comply with these standards, they may not claim to be a contraceptive device.

Condoms also have an expiration date, make sure that your are using it BEFORE the date on the packaging.

Now Let Us Consider Size…

Did the sizing activity make you feel insecure? 

Now Let’s Discuss Material…

Latex Allergy?

What Tecture Does Your Penis Like?
What Strength Do You Need?
​​​​​​​How Hard Do You Want to Play?
How Long Do You Want To Last?

Non-latex Condoms
Non-latex condoms are ideal if you or your partner has an allergy to latex. These condoms are made from non latex materials such as polyurethane or lambskin. Non latex condoms are hypoallergenic and known for their natural feeling.

Do Your Sexy Parts Like It Slippery When Wet?

Personal Lubricants
Personal lubricants are a vital part of a healthy sex life. Find a wide selection of lubes including silicone, water-based, natural, vaginal, anal, flavored, and more. Lubricants can be used during intercourse, foreplay, desensitizing, and some are formulated to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.

Finally, Make Sure That We Protect All Our Body Parts During Sex!

“Nowadays, you can do anything that you want—anal, oral, fisting—but you need to be wearing gloves, condoms, protection.
― Slavoj Žižek

Dental Dams
Dental dams are thin pieces of latex or similar material that can be used to protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during oral sex or rimming (anilingus). They come in the shape of a small square or rectangle and each piece should be used only one time.

How Effective Are Condoms?

According to PlannedParenthood.Org, Condoms are great at preventing both pregnancy and STDs. If you follow the instructions and use them every time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex, there’s very little chance of pregnancy, or getting or giving an STD. 


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Better communication applies to self talk, too

Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:

Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind.  Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life.  Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly.  For every negative message there is positive,  keep looking until you find them.

For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”

Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself.  When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.

Better communication applies to self talk, too

Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:

Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind.  Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life.  Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly.  For every negative message there is positive,  keep looking until you find them.

For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”

Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself.  When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.

Secrets, Can you Keep them?

What is the purpose of secrets in a relationship? Should they be kept, or rather laid obviously clear to a partner? Does one have an obligation to reveal themselves completely when in a close bond such as a friendship or otherwise? The realm by which secrets and hidden truths reside is one of more loosely defined areas when forming a bond, and sometimes is considered a rigid boundary by individuals. The point of secrets is that they are hidden for good reason or another, however what is the point by which they must be revealed?

When one keeps a secret, they are purposefully withholding information from another, protecting it through omission or even deception. A secret has reasonings as to why it is kept, mostly kept to avoid confrontation or outbursts. Emotional confrontation is frightening, heavy, and can lead to much conflict, so most instinctually keep secrets in order to avoid problems such as these. It is a natural instinct, same as with running away from danger. But of course, it is necessary to ponder: is the secret a necessity to keep, and will confrontation help more than avoiding it?

There is a toll to be found when keeping hidden knowledge. It causes undue stress upon the bearer, as it requires an enormous amount of energy in order to deceive, subvert, or avoid the topic consciously. It is easy once forgotten, however the subconscious mind has a means of remembering that exceeds our conscious. Internalizing secrets, without an appropriate release, will internalize stress, bottling it up until an expulsion of emotion and conflict that can leave them broken. Secrets, when kept for too long, can prove to be much more destructive to yourself than if you had never kept them a secret upon the first knowing.

When building a relationship with someone, of any kind, it is vital to assert your boundaries, including that of secrets. Certain people may have an understanding of secrets, or perhaps an avoidance of them. When a boundary is unknowingly crossed, it can be a grave offence, or cause for separation dependant upon the nature of the secret. That is why communication is a necessity for a relationship to work, with or without the presence of hidden information, as otherwise no clear lines are defined and hurt feelings become commonplace without intent or harm or otherwise.

However, it is sometimes alright in order to withhold secrets. In a relationship, not everyone may want crystal clear information at all times, and in fact may prefer to avoid certain information for their own peace of mind, or rather a true relaxed attitude for it. In these circumstances, trust is a key factor. Learn to trust, and build upon it, and then there will be no need for concern Once again, as it seems that communication is the key to a happy, fulfilling relationship.

Reflect on the nature of hidden information, of secrets, and your preferences surrounding them. It is important that you understand what would make you feel more secure and safe in a relationship, so you are able to understand your footing and stance when negotiating and mapping with your partner. It is up to you whether keeping a secret is forgivable, or even an offence. But remember, in a relationship, it is not just you. You are in a partnership, so compromises must be made for the sake of developing the bond. Be clear, be understanding. Don’t keep secrets when talking about secrets.

Dispensary Technician Certification Program

Duration: 1 Month

Enrollment: Forever

Format: 100% Online

Audience: Retail Dispensary


Become a certified Dispensary Technician…and pave your way to success today. Dispensary Technicians (also known as a “Budtender”) work in both medical and recreational dispensaries and play a variety of roles for the customer. You must play the role of an educator; working with the patient or customer to find the strain that best suits their needs or educating consumers on the laws surrounding its use.

Whether you’re new to the role or have been a Dispensary Technician for a while, our certification training will give you the tools you need to become a well-known and approachable expert for your clients. We train you on all the important aspects of cannabis so that you can provide education to customers as well as compassionate recommendations for the patients that you serve.

Education is a powerful tool for you to attract new customers, increase positive community relationships, and ensure the safe operation of the dispensary. Your customers have a wide variety of needs, and you need specialized knowledge to help them no matter where their needs fall.

You will receive the training for the most popular position in a cannabis dispensary, the Dispensary Technician. As the industry is rapidly growing in legitimacy, our training will provide you with the skill-set and knowledge needed to succeed in this position. Our training and certification curriculum will equip you with the knowledge necessary to be a valuable member of the dispensary team.

Budtenders must stay abreast of trends in the industry, as well. With the expert-level knowledge, you will gain in our Dispensary Technician Certification, you will be better equipped to spot and foresee trends, and pass that benefit on to your client, business, or employer. You know as well as we do that this industry is becoming increasingly competitive.

Take the initiative to get certified today, to solidify your expert-level knowledge and give you a much-needed competitive edge. You’ll be glad you did.

Learning Objectives

  • Technician Skills and Role
  • Chemistry and Medicine
  • Delivery and Abuse
  • Edibles and Hash
  • Cannabis Life Cycle
    Showcase Cannabis & Handling Products
  • Seeds and Clones
  • Growing Environments
  • Harvesting Cannabis
  • Effects and Impairment
  • Valid ID and Consumption
  • Professional Selling Skills

Micro-Learning Format

  • Video: 29 Interactive Trainings
  • Resource: 29 eBook Guides
  • Assessment: 11 Quiz Activities
  • Glossary: Industry Terms
  • Display: Digital Badge & Certificate

Online Relationship Programs

The cost of relationship therapy can sometimes be a wall to relationship recovery. Some online tools can either be to intimidating or to complicated to explore. After evaluating many online programs,

I found CouplesWise the most coule and cost friendly resource.

CoupleWise boasts a list of the most impressive professional counselors, therapists, and couples researchers as its advisors. As we grow that become even more integral to our development as a premium-quality service.

Go to Happy Relationship for more information


Therapy and repair work after a betrayal, is the only way to heal and repair. Some online tools can either be too intimidating or to complicated to explore. Going to traditional therapy can also feel shameful.

After evaluating many online programs, I found After the Affair to me the most trauma sensitive and cost friendly online resource.

Please do not let fear or anger destroy your partnership. Get Help Now!

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What is the power of jealousy?

What is jealousy, and how does it come about to affect us so harshly whenever we become plagued in it’s harsh throes? This emotion that drives us to become green with envy is something that is a common problem for a variety of relationships, even those not of romantic roots. It stirs resentment, stews with anger and greed, and brings about the worst within ourselves, hurting even the ones we care about. But, what is it?

Jealousy, in the secular definition, is the general feelings of insecurities, anxieties, and concerns over a lack of possession over something. This something changes depending on context. For instance one can be jealous of a friend for getting the job you wanted, or maybe jealous of someone else’s wealth compared to yours. In this context, however, it refers to the insecurity that wracks the mind when one’s ‘possession’ of a bond with another is threatened. This threatening can be from perhaps a distance created from conflict, or a sudden change that causes one to feel insecure. No matter the circumstance, the feeling is malignant and causes one to shut down from opening up, emotionally or otherwise.

When jealousy arises in a relationship, it can be expressed unconsciously through many mediums: anger, lashing out, overprotectiveness, unfair treatment, harshness, and more. When a partner begins to start lashing out with negative emotion, it is vitally important to identify it, and communicate the feeling. Being green with envy creates subconscious resentment, which is a spreading crack that can poison a bond, no matter how much effort is undergone to mend it completely once suffered. It is not unfair to feel jealousy in of itself. Emotion is emotion, and cannot be faulted, no matter the person, as we all share emotions and are made all the more human by it. However, it is important to remember that lashing out because of jealousy is unfair in a relationship, and should be addressed immediately when noticed.

Jealousy is a terrible emotion that acts as a scourge on a relationship, however it does not warrant complete rejection either. Each person has felt, or will feel jealousy alongside numerous other malicious emotions that come along with developing emotional experience. Emotions and life in general can be surmised in the infamous phrase of Charles Dickens: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times”. It is important to realize that it is a necessity, in order to have a healthy bond with someone, to acknowledge the existence of jealousy between the members in the relationship, and that it is a normal behavior. The point at which jealousy becomes unfair, and unkind, is when the person lashes out, acting on it harshly, out of fear.

One of the hardest things in order to do as part of a relationship of all is it learn to let go. When your partner is doing things that they enjoy, or have to do, you must learn to trust them and let them go in order to let them grow. No matter the jealousy you feel, no matter the feelings of anguish and anxiety, you must learn to trust and let them be. Jealousy will cause you to feel as if you’ve an entitlement to their undivided attention, but is unhealthy for anyone involved. Let them live as a person, and you can cherish them upon their return. That is the essence of overcoming the green plague of jealousy: learn to let go and trust.

Oxytocin Spray

Oxytocin Spray is a mysterious treatment surrounded in a superfluous maze of hopes and anxious inquisitiveness from researchers and clients alike. But whatever is this strange substance that has become one of the primary focuses for researchers of mental health and certain genetic disorders.? It still is surrounded by plenty of unknown questions, and countless variables. After decades of research, we still somehow only manage to glean a light understanding this strange hormone known as Oxytocin, and how it affects our thinking and judgements.

The chemical of Oxytocin is still mostly misunderstood by researchers and readers alike. The hormone, thanks to an exorbitant amount of press and speculation, has been dubbed the “love hormone”. This simple, binary perspective of the hormone is not quite accurate, and leads to potential for misuse. However, before research into negative effects had been undergone, the chemical was quickly administered as a medicine for various issues such as marital problems, lack of understanding of social cues, and any other issue involving a lack of desire to associate with others. The hormone, according to Beth Azar from the American Psychology Association, is found within high concentrations inside mothers and children, adults romantically interested with one another, or in individuals within a detrimental relationship, theoretically influencing them to find connections elsewhere.

The potential positives of Oxytocin are interesting, and promising. According to researchers and supporters of the treatment, it empowers thinking processes that promote general connection, romantic interest, understanding social cues, a desire to be social, and more. It is something that can effectively aid in a number of treatments for genetic disorders, and aid one in reaching outside the comfort zone, in order to grow more and expand their perspectives.

However, there are certain negative factors that may endanger or promote risk in an individual’s wellbeing from this treatment. Oxytocin may promote desire for a relationship, however this may form into hasty decisions that result in grievous relationships. Another consequence may be the complete opposite from expected, as some patients, according to Azar, have been observed to isolate and avoid social connection as a result of the treatment. The only conclusion that can be certainly draw is that the Oxytocin Spray, much like any medicine that remotely affects the mind, may affect different people in dramatically separate ways.

Although the research may be premature, the potential benefits of Oxytocin spray are plenty. If you are interested in attempting to use the treatment, speak with your physician about using the medicine and any possible side effects it may have upon your daily life

Here comes the rain again

Hurricanes are a certain massive storm phenomena, responsible for the widespread destruction of property, infrastructure, and the displacement of thousands of individuals throughout the land. It is truly a natural disaster that crushes the foundations high and low.

But despite the horror stories of when hurricanes are at their worst, there are a number of steps that can be undertaken in order to promote the safety and wellbeing of you, your family, and other loved ones. Here are some important steps to take whenever you may be in the path of an oncoming Hurricane:

  1. The first preparation you must make in the event of a Hurricane or similar storm is to board up your windows, doors, or other potential openings. This may seem excessive, however is highly important in order to protect you from stray debris that may or may not break windows. Hillsborough County, in the event of Irma, provided steel sheets to block the windows with, and allowed for stray debris to not collide with the glass.
  2. By securing your isolated, effective shelter from the wind and rain, you have accomplished a major task that can avoid a significant portion of the danger involved. However, this means you will be secured in your shelter, unable to get out for the duration of the storm. So, you must secure provisions to last you through a significant amount of time. This involves many nonperishables. Research your local weather station in order to find information as to how long you should plan to stay indoors. Provisions not only includes food, but batteries and any other necessary supplies for staying indoors. The power may go out, so it is always a benefit to form backup plans around it.
  3. The last step in hurricane safety is to follow customary procedures during a storm, and any instructions from authorities. This most likely involves the refraining from driving outdoors, going outdoors, evacuation orders, and any other advice communicated. A good strategy to help make it through this force of nature is having a battery-operated radio that can connect to a local news station, or national broadcasting station, for more information.

The storm is frightening, can be monstrous, and unrelenting, but with enough preparation, anyone is capable of making it through it without risk or major damage. It is imperative to keep yourself, and your loved ones safe and secure through the tumultuous event. Stay safe, and don’t leave anything to chance if you can do so.