Ask a Sexpert

Does it feel awkward bringing up safe sex to your partner(s)? 

How do I choose the right condom for me?

First Check the Lable…

Make sure to read the condom label to check if it is FDA-approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs. According to FDA regulations, anything that “sufficiently resembles” a condom must comply with FDA standards including novelty condoms, like those that glow in the dark or are flavored. If condoms do not comply with these standards, they may not claim to be a contraceptive device.

Condoms also have an expiration date, make sure that your are using it BEFORE the date on the packaging.

Now Let Us Consider Size…

Did the sizing activity make you feel insecure? 

Now Let’s Discuss Material…

Latex Allergy?

What Tecture Does Your Penis Like?
What Strength Do You Need?
​​​​​​​How Hard Do You Want to Play?
How Long Do You Want To Last?

Non-latex Condoms
Non-latex condoms are ideal if you or your partner has an allergy to latex. These condoms are made from non latex materials such as polyurethane or lambskin. Non latex condoms are hypoallergenic and known for their natural feeling.

Do Your Sexy Parts Like It Slippery When Wet?

Personal Lubricants
Personal lubricants are a vital part of a healthy sex life. Find a wide selection of lubes including silicone, water-based, natural, vaginal, anal, flavored, and more. Lubricants can be used during intercourse, foreplay, desensitizing, and some are formulated to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.

Finally, Make Sure That We Protect All Our Body Parts During Sex!

“Nowadays, you can do anything that you want—anal, oral, fisting—but you need to be wearing gloves, condoms, protection.
― Slavoj Žižek

Dental Dams
Dental dams are thin pieces of latex or similar material that can be used to protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during oral sex or rimming (anilingus). They come in the shape of a small square or rectangle and each piece should be used only one time.

How Effective Are Condoms?

According to PlannedParenthood.Org, Condoms are great at preventing both pregnancy and STDs. If you follow the instructions and use them every time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex, there’s very little chance of pregnancy, or getting or giving an STD. 


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It’s Not About the Nail

E31 – Polly needs a lawyer

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David Hoffman was born and raised in Tampa, Florida, where he currently lives with his wife, two dogs, a cat and a hedgehog. Hoffman Law Firm, P.A. opened on February 14, 2014, serving clients throughout the Tampa Bay area in areas including divorce, child support, custody, dependency, and estate planning. It is the mission of Hoffman Law Firm to provide clients with affordable, personalized service. David is an active member of the Tampa community. He serves on the Board of Directors for the South Tampa Chamber of Commerce as their Consulting Attorney. Through the South Tampa Chamber, David volunteers his time to projects and events benefiting local businesses as well as military families and veterans. He is also a member of the Hillsborough County Bar Association, the LGBT Bar Association of Tampa Bay, and the Tampa Bay Inn of Court. David is currently in training to become a Kink Certified Professional. He works with kink, lifestyle and poly families to meet the unique their needs and offer a welcoming and inclusive experience.

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Chronic Depression

Chronic Depression

When I was a teenager, I was told that I probably grew up depressed.  I have had reoccurring episodes of depression my entire life so I guess the term chronically depressed fits.  Most of time, I would say it doesn’t disrupt my life.  Everyone has natural ups and downs and as I have matured I have learned to recognize these and function quite well.  I think the difference is that I do not handle what everyone else would say is a normal life challenges well.  Losing a job, end of a relationship, divorce, death of a loved one—all send me down a spiral and a hole that is hard to crawl out of.   These are the times that I need professional help in the form of medication and therapy.  I’ve learned to recognize this too as I have matured.   The most important thing I have learned is to hide my depression from others.

Despite all of the information available about a host of mental illness’ including depression, there is still a stigma with being diagnosed.   Discrimination comes in many forms—educational opportunities, housing, and employment.   Sure, no one will come out and say that your diagnosis was the reason you were denied these things, but sometimes there is no other explanation.  In a right to work state like Florida, an employer really doesn’t have to have a “reason” for not hiring you or for termination.

There are social implications as well.  There are those who without even knowing the situation will ostracize a person once the diagnosis is disclosed.  I attended a relationship discussion group once where several people said that they would not even enter a relationship with someone who had ANY mental health diagnosis regardless of whether or not it was under control.  I was appalled and offended.   I have also learned that when my depression is not under control to hide it simply because people don’t want to be around a “sad” person and will naturally want to rid themselves of the negativity.

So I think there are many of my mentally ill brothers and sisters who hide their diagnosis. We are your family members, neighbors, and co-workers.  We are the cashier you buy coffee from as well as your child’s teacher.  We can be your mailman, repairman, or your lawyer.  Whether or not you want to be exposed to a mentally ill person, you are going to be.

Some things people may not know about me and my depression and I think others who have varied mental illness will relate to:

  • Don’t assume because I have a mental illness that I can’t do something. I function quite well at my job.
  • Don’t expect me to be “sad” all of the time even when I am severely depressed. I can go out to a party and actually have a good time.
  • Do invite me to your party or get together or just to hang out. I appreciate being made to feel wanted and included so please do invite me to things.
  • Don’t ask me if I have taken my medication after I complain about something you did or didn’t do. This is infuriating and it invalidates my feelings.
  • Don’t automatically fear me. Even though I have been a danger to myself in the past, I don’t have thoughts of harming others.