Six Inches Makes All the Difference

Research published by sociologists at New York University recently suggests that short men remain  married longer than their taller counterparts. Why on earth should that be? Surely there aren’t really thousands of women out there, patting their little husbands on the head whilst declaring undying and eternal love (well until the divorce that is, as the research finds the marriages last longer, not necessarily indefinitely).

Nope, the logical and rational explanation according to the researchers is that being short is seen to be less attractive, therefore short men marry later and presumably don’t make the same mistakes as those younger but taller than them! Wonderful, so now small men get picked up by desperate spinsters, ready to take and hang on to any man who’ll have them, even if it does mean ditching the stilettoes and wearing flat shoes for the rest of their married lives.

Just how ridiculous is this? There must be hundreds of thousands of both short and tall men out there that could debunk these findings. 

A Lesson from Kerala

A few years ago we travelled as a family to Kerala, the spice garden of India, in the south of the country. It was a fascinating experience and although so many of our holidays include sunset dinners with a bottle of wine in the shadow of an ancient monument (no, I honestly mean the stone and mortar variety, not Outdoor Man), India was very different. We rode elephants, stayed on houseboats, were wary of monkeys in the trees above us and generally feasted out on a culture with sights, smells and customs very different to our own.

We were conscious that alcohol was available if you wanted it, but apart from an occasional bottle of beer, none of our party imbibed except, that is, for the guide who, even on our first night, returned to our dinner table smelling of spirits and somewhat more agitated and vocal than when he had left us.

That memory came back to me today when I read that Kerala attributes 69% of its crimes and 80% of its cases of divorce and domestic violence to alcohol. As a result it is looking to reduce alcohol consumption across the state by revoking licences for the sale of liquor and its aim is to be totally dry within a few years.

Alcohol is a contributory factor to many a divorce and violent episode here in the UK too. Surely there cannot be a divorce lawyer in the country who has not drafted a petition for divorce with those notorious words: “The Respondent drank to excess…”

There is a school of thought that suggests that alcohol exacerbates one’s natural temperament, emphasising the aggression in some and the soft and entertaining nature of others. So there are some who sing and dance on the table before falling asleep underneath it, and others who maliciously throw the table and chairs whilst trying to impose their will on those who are weaker than themselves. The person who is sweet and innocent when sober, can turn into a demon possessed when “under the influence”.

Before the UK would consider banning the sale of “booze”, however, it would inevitably consider other options. Indeed a minimum price tag seems to be the current political favourite. Might I, however, suggest an alternative, namely: the introduction of elephants in the streets and monkeys in the trees? Although it hasn’t worked in Kerala, were British drinkers to come face to face with an ape or woolly mammoth whilst binge drinking in the local town centre, they would surely think they had overindulged and it was time to make a quiet retreat to bed.

Former Orlando Husband and Wife Post Divorce Selfie on Facebook

There are prom selfies, engagement ring selfies, belfies — but divorce selfies? Divorce selfies aren’t something we come across every day. Brittany Wong reports for The Huffington Post.

Orlando, Fla. residents Keith Hinson and Michelle Knight posted a selfie after receiving their divorce docs and ending their three-year marriage last Thursday.

“Here’s to the most friendly, respectful, and loving split imaginable. We smile not because it’s over, but because it happened,” Keith wrote under a photo of the former couple beaming outside of the court room.

Keith, 36, said the pair realized the selfie might seem a little off-color, but that ultimately it has set the tone for family and friends who might find interacting with the newly divorced couple awkward. The selfie speaks for itself: there’s no bitterness here, just love.

“Michelle and I have a good sense of humor about this,” Keith told the Huffington Post via email. “And we also wanted to let people know that this didn’t have to be a negative experience. We are choosing to move forward with love. We’ve been separated a year, and throughout that time, we’ve both been committed to preserving our friendship.”

The post-split selfie has so far racked up 132 “likes,” plenty of positive replies from Facebook friends — and a few confused ones, too. (“Bahaha. Funny pic! Congrats? What do I say here?,” one friend wrote.)

The couple says they’re game for whatever feedback may come their way.

“Friends and family have always thought we were a bit unconventional with this process,” Michelle, 35, said. “They first balked at our dog custody arrangement, which requires us to see each other each weekend with the dog! But ultimately, I think they are proud of how we are handling things. It makes it easier on our friends for us to be friendly — there’s no need to choose sides.”

And though the marriage was short-lived, Keith says he’s just glad it happened.

“To share that kind of bond with another is one of the most divine gifts given to us,” he said. “I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to love and be loved in return. I truly smile because I lived in that beautiful sunlight of love for a bit.”

An amicable divorce is possible as Keith and Michelle show us. Let the Men’s Divorce Law Firm help guide you through the process. Contact us today to schedule a consultation with an experienced Orlando family lawyer.

Fathers’ Rights Protester Climbs British Minister’s Roof

A protester scaled the home of the British justice minister and set up camp on the roof to demand greater rights for fathers on August 19th, an activist group said. reports.
Photos showed a tent on top of a house and a protester hanging a banner reading “No rights? Go MAD”.

“He has set up camp on top of the roof and has enough supplies to last several days,” the group New Fathers 4 Justice said in a statement.

A spokesman for Justice Secretary Chris Grayling said the ongoing incident was a matter for the police. Police were not immediately available for comment.

The group said the protester was Martin Matthews who, according to press reports, previously scaled the politician’s constituency office. Fathers’ rights activists camped on the roof of a building at the entrance to London’s Hyde Park for several days two weeks ago, and were arrested when they descended.

New Fathers 4 Justice says it is campaigning for a “legal presumption of equal contact for a child with their parents if they split up.”

Matthews, 47, was arrested following a day and night on top of Grayling’s home. Matthews has been released on conditional bail and will appear at South East Surrey Magistrates Court on September 8th.

Do you have questions regarding fathers’ rights, child time-sharing or divorce? Contact the Men’s Divorce Law Firm today to discuss your family law matters with our caring Client Intake Team.

First Federal Judge Rules in Favor of Gay Marriage in Florida

After a staggered start, marriage equality has officially prevailed across the Sunshine State. Emma Margolin reports for MSNBC.

On August 21st, a federal judge struck down Florida’s 2008 marriage amendment – which allows only heterosexual couples to legally wed, and prevents state officials from recognizing same-sex marriages performed anywhere else. The ruling, issued by U.S. District Judge Robert L. Hinkle  – a President Bill Clinton appointee – follows state judge decisions that overturned the ban in Broward, Miami-Dade, Monroe, and Palm Beach counties. Unlike those rulings, however, which came from courts with limited jurisdiction, Hinkle’s decision applies to the entire state.

“Liberty, tolerance, and respect are not zero-sum concepts,” wrote Hinkle in his 33-page opinion. “Those who enter opposite-sex marriages are harmed not at all when others, including these plaintiffs, are given the liberty to choose their own life partners and are shown the respect that comes with formal marriage.”

Hinkle also drew a connection between the gay rights and civil rights movements.

“To paraphrase a civil rights leader from the age when interracial marriage was struck down, the arc of history is long, but it bends toward justice,” he said, referencing a famous quote from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Florida is the 16th state to see its same-sex marriage ban fall in federal court since last year’s landmark Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) ruling, which cleared the way for gay and lesbian couples to begin receiving spousal benefits from the U.S. government. It also opened up the floodgates to nearly 100 state and federal challenges against the remaining same-sex marriage bans. Many on both sides of the debate now believe this legal momentum will lead the Supreme Court to soon take up one of these cases, and possibly legalize marriage equality throughout the nation.

Though Judge Hinkle spoke forcefully against Florida’s ban in his ruling, he did issue a stay delaying the effects of his order pending appeal. That means that gay and lesbian couples are still barred from receiving marriage licenses in the state.

Still, plaintiffs were thrilled with the decision.

“I am overjoyed that the state we made our home in will soon recognize that what Carol and I had was marriage,” said Arlene Goldberg of Ft. Myers in a statement. Goldberg sued the state seeking recognition of her marriage to Carol Goldwasser, her wife and partner of 47 years, who recently passed away.

“There is one exception to the stay,” Judge Hinkle wrote. “The exception is the requirement to correct Ms. Goldwasser’s death certificate. The correction is important to Ms. Goldberg. There is little if any public interest on the other side of the scale. There is no good reason to further deny Ms. Goldberg the simple human dignity of being listed on her spouse’s death certificate. Indeed, the state’s refusal to let that happen is a poignant illustration of the controversy that brings us here.”

In addition to aggressively representing husbands’ and father’s rights in family law matters, the Men’s Divorce Law Firm also assists clients who are coming together to form a domestic partnership. Just like married couples, life partners and same-sex couples have a right to protect their interests both now and in the future. Contact the Men’s Divorce Law Firm today to learn how we may assist you in defining or resolving your domestic partnership issues.

4 Healthy Ways to Effectively Navigate Conflict –Part 2 of 4

This four-part blog series will explain 4 unique and healthy ways to effectively communicate and navigate your way through conflict. In the first part of this series, we discussed avoiding the use of judgment, blame and criticism when we find ourselves in conflict with someone else. The types of negative words are certain to increase, rather […]

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The Men’s Divorce Law Firm Once Again Named a Top Company for Working Families

The Men’s Divorce Law Firm has once again been named one of the Orlando Sentinel’s Top 100 Companies for Working Families for 2014. This is the sixth consecutive year the Firm has been recognized as one of the most family-friendly places to work in Central Florida. This year the Men’s Divorce Law Firm also ranks fourth in the small business category, which is the highest ranking to date for the Firm.

Each year, the Orlando Sentinel seeks to highlight companies with its annual Top 100 Companies for Working Families program. The winners, which were announced at an awards luncheon on August 1, 2014 at Lowes Royal Pacific in Orlando, are innovative companies that help employees balance work and family life.

Finding optimal work/life balance can be difficult, but some companies such as the Men’s Divorce Law Firm help their employees reach and maintain balance through comprehensive and creative benefits packages and programs. These companies understand the importance of their workers’ lives outside of the company. In return, there is a high degree of company loyalty and less employee turnover. Workers seek out companies that treat them well and help them achieve their goal at work as well as at home.

Through creative work benefits, a caring corporate work environment, and flexible scheduling, the Men’s Divorce Law Firm has once again been included in the list of Top 100 Companies for Working Families.

“We are extremely proud and honored to once again be recognized as one of the Top 100 Companies for Working Families,” said Managing Attorney Jeffrey Feulner of the Men’s Divorce Law Firm which is based in Baldwin Park, Orlando.

The panel of judges was comprised of experts in the human resources and employee benefits arena who are knowledgeable about work/life initiatives and trends in the workplace.

The Men’s Divorce Law Firm has been committed to aggressively represent husbands’ and fathers’ rights in divorce and other family law matters since 2004. Please contact our office today to complete your complimentary intake screening.

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